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"His finest hour lasted a minute and a half."
- Phyllis Diller
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Swingers 101
What is swinging?
Swinging is social and sexual interaction between you and someone other than your primary partner. It's a social process that happens within a community that thinks of sex in positive terms. Swinging is a social/sexual activity involving consenting adult couples, most often on a couple-to-couple basis, with full knowledge and mutual consent of both partners. Swinging is not only for couples. There are a lot of singles in to it as well.
There are a lot of ways to do this… probably as many ways are there are couples in it. We believe swinging is not just about sex; it's also about relationships. Most all of us consider ourselves emotionally monogamous. The Lifestyle often results in an intimate friendship, which may not include sex.
We think of it as play both “sexual and sensual". There is no rule that you must have sex during an encounter, but it is likely to be intimate at some level. The issue of sex is one of chemistry. It is seldom random with Lifestyle couples. It is by choice and selection, always. The selection process may be slow for some, hot and electric on occasion, and some may rarely find a click. People often prefer to get to know someone before having sex. This may mean socializing at clubs, exchanging email and chatting online, or going out on dancing, dining, or for drinks first.
Swinging is many things to many people. There are varying degrees or categories of swinging. One of the best parts of this lifestyle is that usually no one judges others for their motivation. Being able to meet people to be friends with is often the goal for lifestyle couples. Sharing our lives with like-minded people is fun! Some call it recreational sex, we think of the Swinging Lifestyle as much more.
According to Dr. Bob McGinley of LSO, "Swinging is an Attitude". Also defined, 'The Swinging Lifestyle' is a style of living with swinging a major component in recreation, choice of friends, business and social life, and intimate relationships.
Should we tell others about our new lifestyle? That is completely up to you. However, the very people you think will understand usually don't. The lifestyle is wonderful and you do feel like you should share your happiness, but a lot of society is shocked by our open attitude toward sex as adult play.
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